A manual for the perfect encounter with negative persons
1 The pusher, The dictator
- Say maybe and then do not do it.
- I would certainly comply to your sugggestions if I only could understand how
I can do it in a way that suits all requirements. Could you please describe it again and be a little more specific
- Trust me. I will do my best and I will do it as soon as I have finnished the
most urgent things I do now.
- I guareantee you that I will do all I can to make it work out to the b´very
best. You can trust me. Was it this you meant
- You were right the whole time but I did not know what you meant. You were the
one who made me understand how it should be solved.
2 The positive. What if?..
- Please describe all what you want to do and then we will find a solution together
- Let us look at the possibilities. What about trying to re-structure the whole
problem in this way
- So you do not approve of my suggestion. No problem. I have lots of time. Let
us look at your way of describing how the requirements can be satisfied
- Couyld you please explain in detail how it can be completed and I will help
you to define it in a way that all the others understand
- I am glad we are on the same track. Now let us formalize it
3 The charmer. The seducer
- Did you count with the interest rate. Are you sure we have time enough
- Hvae you checked that it is legal and that we will have no legal problems whatsoever
- Are we sure that all parties will contribute. Do we now who will have time enough
for participation
- Are we sure the schema will not collide. Do we have resources enough
4 Waiting for weakness. Backstabber
- Is it so, that your true opinion about this is ....(an exaguration of the irrelevant
in the question)
- I get the impression that you say........(an exaguration of the irrelevant in
the question)
- So you want us all to.......(ridiculous), So you belieeve.....
- What does this have to do with my general presentation of a vision
- Thank you, I am glad you confirmed that you did not.....(an exaguration of the
irrelevant in the question)
5 Preaching a vision. Visionaire
- Do you really think we have the competence to do these things
- If somebody of us could do what you propose. Would you then support this person
- If anyone claimed that they thought they could do what you suggest would you
belive them and would you support them
- Well I want to do it and I am very happy that you will let me do it. I do support
your plans and I will work hard for them
- I promise to give you a complete plan tomorrow if you can promise right now
that you relly believe in what yuou say
6 Responsible planning. The one who takes your resources
- I an truly disappointed. I am so tired
- How can you talk to me like that.
- You seem to disregard me entirely. I feel very hurt by the way you treat me
- I get so angry when you say like that. I feel sad to confront you insensitivity